At 17, I secretly masturbated and would never have admitted it. In my parents’ family-doctor-in-the-cupboard book, I read about my "member" and was proud that I then knew the word "penis" for it. I never peed in urinals for fear that someone might see my "member" and that it could end up getting hard; if anyone had seen my erection, I would have been ashamed to death. Photographing my "penis" would have been the very last thing that would have occurred to me at the time.
Many decades later, times have changed and set me free, and I call the thing by its name: COCK. And only that still feels right.
And more than that. I love my cock, I can excite myself with love for it, and I stand by the fact that I love to show it passionately. And am rewarded for it in the currency of the "cock-obsessed": photos from other gays who want to see and show. This piece is about how that kind of lust lives in most of us and sometimes even rages.
This piece uses direct, unbuttoned wording, as has largely become standard in today’s language. No one uses the word penis in everyday speech, let alone member.
Why I’m crazy about cocks
There’s one moment we all know: the phone vibrates, you open the message, and there it is — a thick, hard cock. For me, that’s not just an image; it’s the essence of gay sex. I’m gay, and I love showing my own cock, especially when it’s hard. And you know what? There’s hardly anything hotter than getting the right reaction to it.
"Hot glans" – words that leave you standing
When I send a picture and get back: "Hot cock" or "What a thick glans," it doesn’t just turn me on — it often gets my cock hard again immediately; for a Daddy over 70, that’s a pretty solid performance. This direct, unvarnished affirmation among men is like fuel. Sometimes I stumble across an old photo of my hard-on in my own gallery and realize I’m getting turned on by myself. That’s not narcissism; it’s pure joy in my masculine sexuality, in my cock that I love.
Evolutionary imprinting and genetic disposition
Human fascination with genitals — and especially men’s fixation on their own penis — has deep evolutionary roots. Studies in behavioral biology show that displaying sexual characteristics is a universal signal of sexual availability and dominance that has developed over thousands of years. In gay men, there is an additional component: The genetic and hormonal imprinting that helps shape sexual orientation also intensifies visual fixation on male genitals as the primary feature of arousal. What heteronormative societies pathologize as "obsessive" is from a neurobiological perspective, a completely normal expression of sexual preference — comparable to the heterosexual fixation on women’s breasts or buttocks.
The digital cock culture: numbers and facts
Current studies on digital sexuality show: around 47% of all men between 18 and 35 have already sent penis photos of themselves — among gay men, this figure is significantly higher, with estimates ranging from 70-80%. Dating apps like Romeo or Dirty Code ("That’s my cock") have made the cock pic the standard means of communication: in a 2024 survey, 63% of the gay men surveyed said they regularly send or receive penis photos. What was unthinkable 20 years ago — one’s own penis as a digital business card — is now part of everyday life. Shame has given way; the pleasure of showing off has won out. Viewed evolutionarily, this is not decline, but a return to original forms of sexual communication — only digital instead of analog.
The "empathy effect": Why we feel what we see
Why are we so crazy about it? A major part of gay fascination has to do with deep, bodily understanding. When I take another cock in my hand or in my mouth, I can relate בדיוק, to how the partner feels. I feel the throbbing, the tension, and the sensitivity because I possess that part of the body myself.
Here lies the huge difference to straight women: they can never share this specific desire for a cock to the same extent, because they lack the physical equivalent themselves. A straight man, in turn, often lacks sexual affinity for the cock as an object of desire. Among us gays, however, the cock forms a bridge of direct, mutual feeling.
Dick pics: a gift among us, harassment for women
We need to draw a very clear line here: Consent is everything. That straight men harass women with unsolicited dick pics is absolutely unacceptable and casts a bad light on sending genital photos overall.
But among us gays? Dick pics are part of normal life today — and that’s a good thing! We celebrate the cock. It’s a game with desire, a showing of what we have and what we want to see in others. While the straight world is still debating this with shame, we enjoy the freedom to turn each other on.
The essence of gay sex
The cock is tool, toy, and symbol all at once. Cock play for me is not just foreplay; it is the core of the whole thing. Seeing, showing, and mutual admiration creates a connection that exists only among truly gay men. Without shame, without hang-ups. Just hot cocks.
I would dare to show my cock right here. Standing up. It would be the necessary, credible, and proper illustration for this piece. "Youth protection" authorities, however, might classify it under pornography. That’s why what should be shown is not shown here.
Feel free to write what you think about it.
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